Monday, April 07, 2008


I hope you can find some fun uses for this elephant element! Please, send me your layouts using any of my elements (as Donna did below) and I will be delighted to publish them. Stay tuned for more animals being paraded out over the next few days.

Layout by blog reader Donna
THANK YOU Donna, for sharing - so CUTE!
Background by Pillow Girl
Background by Chari Class
Bow by MJB
Overlay by Scrapedge
Animals by Barb Derksen


My friend Janice (thanks Janice) sent me the following thought and I just have to share it here with you. Unfortunately, I'm not sure where it originated from in the first place, so unable to give credit. I Just know so many moms and I know how important it is to give encouragement for the wonderful, selfless and often (really!) lonely job you do. (also, I'm sure there's lots of stay at home Dads who this will speak to as well)

Invisible Moms

This has got to touch the heart of every mother or teacher that has poured her life into a child.

I'm Invisible??

It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be taken to the store. Inside I'm thinking, 'Can't you see I'm on the phone?' Obviously not; no one can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see me at all. I'm invisible.

The invisible Mom.

Some days I am only a pair of hands, nothing more: Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this? Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being. I'm a clock to ask, 'What time is it?' I'm a satellite guide to answer, 'What number is the Disney Channel?' I'm a car to order, 'Right around 5:30, please.'? I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes that studied history and the mind that graduated summa cum laude - but now they had disappeared into the peanut butter, never to be seen again. She's going, she's going, and she’s gone!

One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a friend from England. Jane had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there, looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to compare and feel sorry for myself as I looked down at my out-of-style dress; it was the only thing I could find that was clean. My unwashed hair was pulled up in a hair clip and I was afraid I could actually smell peanut butter in it. I was feeling pretty pathetic, when Jane turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, “I brought you this.”

It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe. I wasn't exactly sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription: 'To Charlotte, with admiration for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees. In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book. And I would discover what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I could pattern my work.

No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record of their names. These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never see finished. They made great sacrifices and expected no credit. The passion of their building was fuelled by their faith that the eyes of God saw everything. A legendary story in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man, 'Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that will be covered by the roof? No one will ever see it. And the workman replied, ‘Because God sees.’

I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost as if I heard God whispering to me, 'I see you, Charlotte. I see the sacrifices you make every day, even when no one around you does. No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn on, no cupcake you’ve baked, is too small for me to notice and smile over. You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see right now what it will become.

At times, my invisibility feels like an affliction. But it is not a disease that is erasing my life. It is the cure for the disease of my own self-centeredness. It is the antidote to my strong, stubborn pride. I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work on something that their name will never be on. The writer of the book went so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.

When I really think about it, I don't want my son to tell the friend he's bringing home from college for Thanksgiving, 'My Mom gets up at 4 in the morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for three hours and presses all the linens for the table. That would mean I'd built a shrine or a monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home. And then, if there is anything more to say to his friend, to add, “You're going to love it here”

As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're doing it right. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel, not only at what we have built, but at the beauty that has been added to the world by the sacrifices of invisible women.

Great Job, MOM!

Why not share this with some great Moms or Dads you know?


  1. Good Afternoon Barb:)
    I already have your cool elephant.Thanks for sharing.:)
    Thank you also for sharing "The Invisible Mom".:) Love it!
    I love your visits..thanks for stopping by again.Glad you like my stuff.:)
    Hope all is well with you!


  2. Thank you! Your blog post will be advertised on the DigiFree Digital Scrapbooking Freebie search engine today.

  3. Thank you for the elephant! and i LOVE The Invisible Mom!!!! definitely worth sharing :D
    Have a BEAUTIFUL day!! HUGS!

  4. Thank you for this freebie, it will be posted on today's blog on Freebie Finder

  5. Thank you!

    I needed the reminder today that the things I do are seen by SOMEONE.

    And I've loved all the animals, too!

  6. THANK YOU SO MUCH!! The freebie resourse set you posted is more generosity than anyone has a right to hope for! Especially for those of us just starting out! I thank you from the bottom of my heart!


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